As much as we are at loathe to admit it, first impressions are what people judge us by.
It is a fundamental truth that how we present ourselves to the world, is how people will perceive us. If you are outgoing, fun and smart, but clam up around large groups, others will assume that you are either extremely shy or stuck up.
Either way, the old dance card won’t be filling up.
Where a lot of teenage girls constantly err in this regard, is in the area of dress. Showing a ton of skin may turn heads, but in the end, the boys won’t take you seriously.
As a young lady entering the teen-dating field, you must make certain that the image you are portraying, adequately reflects who you are on the inside. For example, if you are a girl who firmly believes that two people should wait for marriage before having sex, dressing in a mini skirt and stiletto’s is not the best way to dress for a date.
If you desire respect, carry yourself in a way that demands it.
Any young man, who has aspirations and goals, wants a girl who seems serious about her life and her future. Presenting yourself as a trashy, party girl doesn’t send that message. All you will attract are party boys, who do not have a high regard for females to begin with.
Despite what people may think, teenaged boys are a lot like their feminine counterparts. They want to feel that intimacy is sacred between them and their mate. If a girl appears loose or without standards, then they in turn, don’t feel as special.
In a perfect world, people would look past the wrapping to the person inside. We live in an imperfect world, so yes, we will be superficially judged by what we wear and how we act.
It is in our best interest to consider the image we wish to project.
This is not to say that one has to attire oneself in a habit and black sack, but there are plenty of cute, fun and trendy styles that are both youthful and tasteful.
For example, layering tanks and coupling them with a pair of nice fitting jeans or capri’s is a way to emphasize feminine curves without giving away the farm, so to speak. Also, guys love to see girls in skirts and dresses because they show off the legs in a soft, feminine way. Accessorize with jewelry that matches your personality, and voila you have a look that is both modern, tasteful and you.
While a girl who dresses like a stripper may get the guy in the movie or the music video, the actual actress doesn’t walk around on the street like that – it is all image and doesn’t translate well in the real word.
Find a way to show off your individual style while maintaining a dignity that will demand recognition – and get return phone calls.
